[Avodah] Ad sheyeratzeh es chavero
T613K at aol.com
T613K at aol.com
Tue Oct 7 11:29:59 PDT 2008
In a message dated 10/7/2008 9:11:58 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, sba at sba2.com writes:
If I hurt someone as per above, and then notice that the same person is
saying 'Tefilas Zaka' - which includes:
"...vehineni mochel bimechila gemureh lechol me shechoto negdi...oy diber
alay loshon hora v'afilu hotzo'as shem ra...velo yeonesh shum adam
besibosi..."
- do I still need to ask his forgiveness?
>>>>>
Yes.
But with one exception (IMO) -- if he doesn't know that you hurt him and your telling him what you did (e.g., that you gossiped about him) will only create hurt feelings and pain for him, then I think you should stifle it, don't hurt him just so that you can cleanse your own conscience, and be grateful that he is saying Tefilas Zaka.
Also I think that if you hurt him in a way that can still be fixed, without him finding out about it, you should fix it and not tell him. Spare his feelings, is what I think.
--Toby Katz
GCT
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