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<DIV>In a message dated 10/7/2008 9:11:58 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
sba@sba2.com writes:</DIV>
<BLOCKQUOTE style="PADDING-LEFT: 5px; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px; BORDER-LEFT: blue 2px solid"><FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" face=Arial color=#000000 size=2>If I
hurt someone as per above, and then notice that the same person is<BR>saying
'Tefilas Zaka' - which includes: <BR>"...vehineni mochel bimechila gemureh
lechol me shechoto negdi...oy diber<BR>alay loshon hora v'afilu hotzo'as shem
ra...velo yeonesh shum adam<BR>besibosi..." <BR>- do I still need to ask his
forgiveness?<BR></FONT></BLOCKQUOTE></DIV>
<DIV></DIV>>>>>><BR>Yes.</DIV>
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<DIV>But with one exception (IMO) -- if he doesn't know that you hurt him and
your telling him what you did (e.g., that you gossiped about him) will only
create hurt feelings and pain for him, then I think you should stifle it, don't
hurt him just so that you can cleanse your own conscience, and be grateful that
he is saying Tefilas Zaka.</DIV>
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<DIV>Also I think that if you hurt him in a way that can still be fixed, without
him finding out about it, you should fix it and not tell him. Spare his
feelings, is what I think.</DIV>
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<DIV><FONT lang=0 face=Arial color=#0000ff size=2 FAMILY="SANSSERIF" PTSIZE="10"><STRONG></STRONG><BR><B>--Toby
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