[Avodah] Mourning an Abusive Parent

[Micha Berger via Avodah]

On Sat, Sep 03, 2016 at 10:36:39PM +1000, Rabbi Meir G. Rabi via Avodah wrote:
: Mourning an abusive parent ought to be prohibited since it violates the
: Issur of Chanufa...

An abusive person, definitely. An abusive parent? Not so sure.

As I see it from the discussion so far:

1- To what extent is kibud av va'eim a mitzvah bein adam laMaqom, and
thus not only about the parent. The parent as a symbol of the Third
Parner in the person's creation and how He would be treated.

As in R' Aryeh Frimer's book review -- it's not clear a rasha serves
in that role. But I am also not sure we hold he doesn't.

2- What can we demand out of the victim? It's not like kibud av is
yeihareig ve'al ya'avor. Mental health matters.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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