[Avodah] aveilus

Micha Berger micha at aishdas.org
Tue Jun 12 12:25:39 PDT 2012


On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 at 06:24:10PM +0000, kennethgmiller at juno.com wrote:
: On the other hand, a great deal would hinge on exactly how it is
: phrased. If the posek would say, "You are not mechuyav to sit shiva; it
: is optional", then I can easily see how many would choose to optionally
: sit shiva, and make the error of skipping mitzvos aseh in aninus. But if
: the posek would say, "Avelus does not apply, but mourn in your own way,"
: then there would be no such danger.

Or simply "there is no aninus, but you may sit shiv'ah if you need to."

Just as for a rebbe muvhaq.

This doesn't just come up for a neifel, it also comes up for someone who
had a step-parent who felt just like a parent to them, or an adoptee
(or ch"v adoptive parents), etc... And not quite the same thing --
a geir for their parents. And in those cases, the person generally IS
told something like my suggestion above.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha



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