[Avodah] Can a woman wear a wig if her mother did not?

[Rich, Joel]

However, I will mention one area where there may possibly be a matrilineal minhag, and that is Shabbos candle lighting.  When I got married, I was under the impression that if your mother lights a candle for each child, then you, when you have your own home, should follow your mother's custom in this.  However, my husband said that you follow your husband's custom.  His custom (which technically then is my mother-in-law's A'H custom) is to light only two candles.  So that is what I do.  If I felt strongly about it, he probably wouldn't mind my adding extra candles for the children, but in the event I have not done so.  I wonder what the chevra here say about candle-lighting -- mother's or mother-in-law's minhag?


--Toby Katz
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First I think one might want to try to identify the source of the "minhag"  to add one candle per child.  I suspect it's an example of what the gemara refers to as "nahagu" - that people just started doing it that way and it caught on.
 KT
Joel Rich


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