[Avodah] customs under the chuppa

[Eli Turkel]

<<The reason why halakhah has only the chasan speaking under the chupah
is so that *once* in the marriage he can have uncontested say>>

In a more serious vein the custom in DL weddings has been to sing
"Im eshkachech ..." either in the middle or end of the chupa and then
break the glass and shout mazel tov.

In recent weddings this has been changed because some rabbis objected to
saying mazal tov over the breaking of the cup which symbolizes the destroyed
Temple.
Thus, the latest minhag is to break the glass in the middle of the song and
continue singing. After the song is finished the crowd shouts mazal tov and
so there
is no direct connection between the mazal tov and the breaking of the glass

in another vein, I have seen women read the ketuba but have never seen the
kallah breaking the glass

-- 
Eli Turkel
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