[Avodah] Twelve Months Mourning

[Micha Berger]

On Tue, Aug 20, 2013 at 05:56:25PM -0400, Rich, Joel wrote:
: The Shach (Y"D 344:9) states that if a parent commands a child not
: to observe the 12 months of mourning, it is a mitzvah to follow their
: command. Does anyone know whether this is the generally accepted halacha?
: Has anyone seen anything on whether "ruach chachamim" would be noche
: towards a parent who did so command?

If we say, as RYBS does, that aveilus from after sheloshim to the end of the
year is more about kibud av va'eim than actual aveilus, "av shemachal al
kevodo, kevodo machul" (Qiddushin 32a).

ROY says it's a machloqes acharonim WRT av shemachal al mora'o. See
http://www.halachayomit.co.il/DisplayRead.asp?readID=2049
He finds the Chida's argument that it is machul convincing. (And you
can call your father by name if he requests it.) There ROY also says
that av shemachal al bizyono, EIN bizyono machul.

Whomever compiles Halakhah Yomit doesn't give ROY's sources.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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