[Avodah] a troubling halacha

[Ben Waxman]

The language of the AhS and the Khocmat Adam is that there is no khiyuv to 
tell anyone, but that the custom is to tell sons so that they can say 
qaddish. If it is a question of minhag, then it seems that the minhag today 
is to tell everyone right away and not hide anything.

Ben
> See KSA 206 - 9, 10, 11 - http://www.kitzur.net/main.php?nk=1&siman=206

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> 11: The Minhag is to inform male sons about their parents demise so
> that they can say Kaddish.
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