[Avodah] Aveilus

[Micha Berger]

On Sun, Nov 09, 2008 at 05:06:01AM -0500, Cantor Wolberg wrote:
: I once saw a beautiful teshuva regarding the halacha of the length of  
: aveilus and the seeming disparity between only 30 days for a child and  
: a year for parents.
: When parents loses a child they will be mourning the rest of their  
: lives, therefore, in order not to exacerbate it, halacha has  
: compassionately made the (external) aveilus for only 30 days....

I could argue the reverse. Since aveilus is cathartic, the person who
feels the pain longer should be given the tool to feel like he has done
justice to his feelings and the memory of the deceased. Someone who can
get past it on their own more readily doesn't need to be given aveilus
to help him work it out for as long of a period.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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