[Avodah] RSRH, Sinatra, and Love and Marriage

[Daniel Eidensohn]

Prof. Levine wrote:
> At 04:43 PM 11/25/2008, R. D. Eidensohn wrote:
>> For many  couples if there is no attraction initially - the marriage 
>> will not
>> succeed.
> Attraction and love are two very different things. Indeed, I am sure 
> that we all know of instances in which two people were very attracted 
> to each other, but there was no love and no love developed.
>
> RSRH was talking about love developing during the course of the 
> marriage. He said nothing about attraction.
You missed my point. I wasn't asserting that love and attraction are the 
same thing. The example of Avraham not noticing his wife's beauty is 
another issue that we could make a didactic statement that beauty is not 
important and shouldn't be important. This however is contradicted by 
many other Torah sources. Similarly you can't take a posuk that says 
that Yitzchok came to love Rivka after they were married as a paradigm 
of the Torah view of the relationship between love and marriage - since 
it is contradicted by other sources such as Yaakov and Rochel. One data 
point can not be assumed to be representative of the population it was 
drawn from - especially when other data points contradict it.

Daniel Eidensohn

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