[Avodah] Mechila

[Micha Berger]

On Dec 20, 2018, at 1:03 AM, Alexander Seinfeld <seinfeld at daasbooks.com> wrote:
:> I have no sympathy for a husband who assaults his wife or a wife who
:> assaults her husband. If you assault your spouse, you do not deserve
:> your spouse.

: > Would you say the same for a spouse who assaults his/her spouse verbally?

Hezeq and onaas devarim are different issurim. But they both are forms 
of harm recognized by halakhah.

(Maybe I mean all three are recognized: hezeq haguf and hezeq mamon are
different things, with different dinim.)

And if the ona'as devarim gets to the point of halvanas panim, it's compared
to retzichah. BM 58b lumps OD and pinning a nickname on someone together
with eishes ish as sins that cause gehennom to be permanent ("sheyordim
ve'ein olim") and ein lo cheileq le'olam haba (59a).

And of course, "noach lo le'adam shayapil es atzmo lekivshan ha'eish,
be'al yalbin penei chaveiro." (Mar Zutra, BM 59a) Which is taking
seriously, not exageration, in discussions of yeihareig ve'al ya'avor.

So to ammend my first paragraph, verbal abuse is far MORE vilified by
the din than hezeq.

I would consider answering: lo kol shekein!


Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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