[Avodah] kaddish yatom by non-mourner

[Micha Berger]

On Fri, Sep 21, 2018 at 12:55:33AM +0000, Rich, Joel via Avodah wrote:
: I believe there is a disagreement as to whether a request like this
: is covered by kavod av. If it is not, why wouldn't the child have the
: right to say he wants the mitzvah of getting the congregation to say
: yhei shmei rabba (or at least ask the parent to ask for guidance from
: their halachic authority)

This makes sense to me. Unlike my own case, where the motive is saying
qaddish for a daughter* on her yahrzeit. There is no loss to the minyan,
typically, as we aren't talking about a minyan where everyone else has
living parents with an equal right to be maqpidim.

(* Kayli a"h was born first day sh"m Sukkos, so this is particularly on
my mind...)

I guess the question is whether a missed qaddish is enough to trump
kivud av va'eim, or does it have to be that they asked the child to
violate a full fledged lav or to ignore a chiyuv asei.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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