[Avodah] mourning an abusive parent

elazar teitz via Avodah avodah at lists.aishdas.org
Fri Sep 9 09:53:03 PDT 2016


     RMeir Rabi, in seeking to justify his position that one need not
(indeed, according to RMR, is not permitted to) observe aveilus for an
abusive parent, he cited the following:

   "ShTeShuvah 187
9 categories of Chonef
Someone who recognises [Hikir - though his own observations] or has seen or
knows [through the observations of others]
that a certain person has done bad [Oval BeYad ChaVeiro]
or has supported crooked behaviour [HachZik BeTarmis]
or he has sinned by speaking badly about another Yid
or hurt other peoples feelings [ONoAs Devarim]

and smooths things over by telling him, You have done nothing wrong "

     How does practicing aveilus say about the parent that s/he hasddone
nothing wrong?

     He quotes further,

     " 189
category 2 - the Chonef who praises the Rasha be it in the presence of the
Rasha or not, even though he does not defend the evil ..
but simply says he's a good guy."

     How does practicing aveilus say about the parent that s/he was a good
guy?

EMT
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