[Avodah] how to 'fix' a mamzer

[M Cohen via Avodah]

RBW asked.. L'maaseh, does anyone today check to see if a woman wanting to
marry a cohen has a status of a zona 
(other than checking if she is a convert or divorcee)?

Ans. Yes, all BT girls are asked 'as discreetly as possible' if they are
mutar to a cohen or not when in the shidduch parsha.
(bc rov are not eligible)

L'maaseh, today a cohen basically cannot marry almost all BT girls, and must
look towards FFB shidduchim

This 'fact of life' is common knowledge among BT kallah teachers.

At this pt, we do assume that FFB girls are mutar to a cohen (unless they
bring it up otherwise)

Some stats: 
The average age Americans lose their virginities is 17.1 for both men and
women
The CDC also reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females aged 20 to
24. 
That number drops below 5 percent aged 25 to 29
Statistically, if you didn't have sex in your teen years, you're in the
minority.


The interesting/disturbing problem is that many (rov?) BT cohens are not
probably not cohens.
(and actually w be mutar to a zona, mutar l'tamai l'masim, etc)

If the BT cohens mother grew up post 1960s/70s/80s or so (and became BT post
high school), 
it's probably a chazakah that she was m'zaneh with a goy before marriage to
the BTs father.

It's unlikely that the BT boy is willing to ask his mother if she was
m'zaneh with a goy before marriage to the BTs father.
(and even if she says she wasn't, is she be believed against the chazaka?)

I personally heard from a major chareidi posek that for this reason a cohen
s l'chatchila not go out w a BT cohens daughter, 
if the parents were married before they became frum and she was a teenager
post 1960s/70s/80s or so
(bc of the possibility that she is actually the daughter of a chalalah who
was forbidden to marry her father)

As the time line moves forward, it's hard to understand why BT cohens are
considered cohenim and allowed to do birkas cohanim etc

Mordechai cohen




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