[Avodah] aveilus

[Micha Berger]

On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 at 12:09:43PM +0300, Eli Turkel wrote:
: There was a case recently in my community of a couple who had triplets and
: one died I believe after more than 30 days and the parents were told not to
: sit shiva. However, I dont have all the facts, but obviously all the
: infants were born early and in danger from birth.

Why are people in these cases -- lo aleinu -- told not to sit, rather
than being told they aren't mechuyavim to sit?

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha