[Avodah] Benching at a wedding

[Joshua Meisner]

On Fri, Jul 23, 2010 at 9:31 AM, Benjamin Shaw <ben_shaw1 at hotmail.co.uk>wrote:

>  Hi,
>
> When I go to a wedding I often want to leave before the offical benching
> has started. I see other benching without organizing a Ziman. Is this
> correct or should a Ziman be created?
>
> Can one wash and not have intention to be included in the ziman so they can
> leave early?
>

RMF discusses this question in IM 1:56, and brings evidence that stating
explicitly that one does not intend to join the kevius of the other mesubin
is an acceptable means of removing the chiyuv zimun (and then brings down R'
Shlomo Kluger, who reaches the same conclusion from an entirely different
source), and hence recommends doing this as the method of choice of dealing
with the issue at chasunos.

Joshua Meisner
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