[Avodah] children at a wedding

[kennethgmiller at juno.com]

R' Daniel Israel wrote:

> This is a minhag, not a halacha, so it doesn't necessarily have
> to be rigorously logical.

Agreed, but still, it does have to make sense to some degree. And I would imagine that in most cases, even when the child doesn't like the idea of a parent being replaced, he would *usually* not refuse to attend the wedding, so I'm wondering how this minhag developed.

> However, I would assume that the distinction is that the
> tzar of a child whose parent is remarrying (for whatever  
> reason) is connected to the mitzvah of kibud to the
> other parent.

If the parents are divorced, this would apply only if the other parent objects to the child attending. And if the parent getting married is widowed, then there isn't any other parent to object.

Akiva miller

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