[Avodah] children at a wedding

[kennethgmiller at juno.com]

R' David Riceman wrote:
> The function of attending a wedding to be "m'sameah hatan
> v'kallah".  If your attendance has the opposite effect it
> makes sense not to go.  Of course this is a weaker
> requirement than being "wholeheartedly besimcha", which I
> imagine is assur anyway until the reconstruction of the
> temple.

Thank you for suggesting an explanation.

But I have been presuming that in the case we are discussing, the child does want to attend the parent's wedding, and also the parent wants the child to attend. But af al pi kayn, they are being told of a "minhag" that the child should not attend.

Am I mistaken about the case? Perhaps the reason behind this minhag was to institute a "lo plug" for the cases where the parent wants the child to attend but the child doesn't want to?

Akiva Miller

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