[Avodah] so is she married?

[Micha Berger]

On Tue, Oct 20, 2009 at 02:40:59AM +0000, kennethgmiller at juno.com wrote:
: I don't know a lot about Hilchos Kiddushin, but I am somewhat familiar
: with the American practice of getting engaged.

: I know that the poskim have teshuvos about when foolish teenagers
: pretend to get married. But this was not a pretend marriage. It was
: a genuine engagement. I am incredulous that anyone could confuse the
: two....

There are poseqim who advise the boy to propose in a place where there
are no eidim so that if ch"v the engagement needs to be broken, she
won't need a get.

See
http://www.aishdas.org/avodah/getindex.cgi?section=E#ERUSINMURESET%20FROM%20AREIVIM
RARakeffetR was chosheish for the problem of an engagement proposal accidentally
being a wedding in one of his recorded shiurim,

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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