[Avodah] Kaddish Yasom

[Arie Folger]

On Wednesday, 30. April 2008 17.36:07 avodah-request at lists.aishdas.org wrote:
> On Wed, Apr 30, 2008 at 06:00:06AM -0400, Cantor Wolberg wrote:
> : He was told (contrary to what many feel is proper) that it was not  
> : kovodik for a son to shovel earth, so he refrained from
> : what he thought was correct...

I am pretty sure that I shoveled earth into my father's grave, and the 'hevra 
qadishah didn't say a thing. (On the other hand, they nearly threw a fit when 
realizing that I wasn't wearing a jacket under my coat. I didn't because R. 
Melekh Schachter had taught us to pasqen according to the Mas'at Binyamin, 
only to tear a jacket if one always wears it. In order to avoid a row with 
the 'hevra qadishah, I simply had no jacket under the coat. This, however, 
demonstrates that they weren't shy to point out when something isn't to their 
liking.)

KT
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