[Avodah] Kaddish Yasom -- Misplaced Priority?

[kennethgmiller at juno.com]

R' SBA wrote:
> There isn't any doubt at all that by being oyver on
> halachos or causing tircha detzibura etc, the Kaddish-sayer
> is 'yotzo sechoro behefsedo'  Also some baalei yorzeit when
> at the amud, race through the whole tefila, with many
> unable to keep up or answer omein. I usually ask them if
> they think they have really achieved any 'tova' for the
> neshama?

When you wrote "I usually ask them", did you mean that you merely *want* to ask them, or that you actually *do* ask them?

There are many times that I *want* to ask such people that sort of thing, but then my more practical side tells me that such people would generally not understand what I was talking about. Such a conversation would tend to be unproductive, or worse, counterproductive.

But if you actually *have* pointed this out to people, please share what reactions you've gotten from them. How often do they understand what you mean, and does it ever result in an actual improvement?

(Rare is the person who understands his abilities and limitations. One such was Mr. Sky of Elizabeth, who would often decline the amud, saying, "When he died, my father turned me into a yasom. He didn't turn me into a chazan.")

Akiva Miller
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