[Avodah] Kaddish Yasom

[Micha Berger]

On Wed, Apr 30, 2008 at 06:00:06AM -0400, Cantor Wolberg wrote:
: He was told (contrary to what many feel is proper) that it was not  
: kovodik for a son to shovel earth, so he refrained from
: what he thought was correct...

My father did accordingly when my grandmother was nifteres. I shoveled,
my father did not. I think it's that the children aren't supposed to
appear happy to be rid of the deceased.

I wasn't old enough to notice what he did when my grandfather died,
but my bet is that this was the instruction he got then from R' Fabian
Schonfeld of the YI of KGH.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha