[Avodah] Kaddish Yasom -- Misplaced Priority?

[SBA]

From: "Micha Berger" < >
.. saying kaddish is a zekhus for the niftar, but by no means the only way
that a chid's actions can be a zekhus for a deceased parent.  Even if one
were to argue that the desire to be mezakeh one's parents is an
understandable, or even laudable reason that saying kaddish might be given
unusual weight ..
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See KSA 26:22 where he clearly writes that while saying Kaddish and
davvening at the Amud is beneficial for the neshama of the niftar, "mikol
makom ein elu ha'ikkar." (And, BTW, davvening at the amud is more valuable
than saying Kaddish.) The KSA explains and cites a Zohar.

There isn't any doubt at all that by being oyver on halachos or causing
tircha detzibura etc, the Kaddish-sayer is 'yotzo sechoro behefsedo'

Also some baalei yorzeit when at the amud, race through the whole tefila,
with many unable to keep up or answer omein. I usually ask them if they
think they have really achieved any 'tova' for the neshama?

SBA