[Avodah] Kaddish Yasom -- Misplaced Priority?

[Micha Berger]

You're going to have to trust me again. Forwarded on behalf of the
author for a sound reason.

-Micha


I haven't been following the whole discussion on Areivim, but I just
saw the post on Avodah (entitled "Airline Prayer") referencing the
question of whether a hakpadah to say kaddish is sometimes given undue
weight when it comes into conflict with other halakhic values.

I was actually just thinking about that this morning, while noticing
somebody sitting in front of me say a complete kaddish between putting
on his shel yad and his shel rosh!

I have also seen, on a number of occasions, cases where people wait
for a minyan to start pesukei dezimrah (even though a minyan would
have definitely arrived before Barekhu), because somebody "has to" say
kaddish after the beraisa of R' Yishma`eil, resulting in the whole
minyan saying keri'as shema` after the zeman.

The way I understand it, saying kaddish is a zekhus for the niftar,
but by no means the only way that a chid's actions can be a zekhus for
a deceased parent.  Even if one were to argue that the desire to be
mezakeh one's parents is an understandable, or even laudable reason
that saying kaddish might be given unusual weight when it comes up
against other values, wouldn't hakpadah on hilkhos berakhos (in the
case of the hefseik between the tefilin) or hilkhos keria's shema` be
an even bigger zekhus?  (And if I'm guessing the context of the
original Areivim discussion correctly based on its subject line,
perhaps the same could be said about hakpadah on gezel sheinah and
"ve'ahavta lerei`acha kamokha.")
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