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<div>NOTE TO R' MICHA: This is a post for Avodah. Please make this post anonymous (and delete this note) before sending it out to the list, as there is at least one list member who knows who usually sits in front of me in shul and is currently saying kaddish. Thank you.</div>
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<div>I haven't been following the whole discussion on Areivim, but I just saw the post on Avodah (entitled "Airline Prayer") referencing the question of whether a hakpadah to say kaddish is sometimes given undue weight when it comes into conflict with other halakhic values.</div>
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<div>I was actually just thinking about that this morning, while noticing somebody sitting in front of me say a complete kaddish between putting on his shel yad and his shel rosh!</div>
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<div>I have also seen, on a number of occasions, cases where people wait for a minyan to start pesukei dezimrah (even though a minyan would have definitely arrived before Barekhu), because somebody "has to" say kaddish after the beraisa of R' Yishma`eil, resulting in the whole minyan saying keri'as shema` after the zeman.</div>
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<div>The way I understand it, saying kaddish is a zekhus for the niftar, but by no means the only way that a chid's actions can be a zekhus for a deceased parent. Even if one were to argue that the desire to be mezakeh one's parents is an understandable, or even laudable reason that saying kaddish might be given unusual weight when it comes up against other values, wouldn't hakpadah on hilkhos berakhos (in the case of the hefseik between the tefilin) or hilkhos keria's shema` be an even bigger zekhus? (And if I'm guessing the context of the original Areivim discussion correctly based on its subject line, perhaps the same could be said about hakpadah on gezel sheinah and "ve'ahavta lerei`acha kamokha.")</div>