[Avodah] Child marrying against Parents' wishes

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From: Daniel Eidensohn <yadmoshe at 012.net.il>
>>However if  the potential mate is in fact observant but is  a baal tshuva 
or a ger.  or a mixed marriage of American and Israeli or ashkenaz with 
sefardi? A  litvak marrying a chasid? What about biracial? If the person 
is retarded or  has Down's syndrome? What about ben or bas nidah? Former 
drug addict or  alcoholic?

Does anyone know of psak in these types of  cases?<<


Daniel Eidensohn


 
 
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Don't know a source -- only anecdotal.  One case I know of was  a young man 
who married the daughter of a giyores -- the chassan's parents  refused to come 
to the wedding, even though my father got involved himself  and tried to 
persuade the parents to change their minds.  The parents were  eventually 
reconciled to their son's marriage -- they went to the bris when  their first 
grandchild was born.
 
 
The other case I know of was the marriage of a BT man (who had  been frum a 
long time and had learned in mainstream yeshivos) and FFB  woman where my 
father said, in regard to the question of ben nidah, "Yeshiva is  a mikva."
 
My impression is that my father wouldn't have given a blanket psak -- one  
may marry against his parents' wishes, period -- but would want to know on a  
case by case basis whether the parents' objections were justified, before  
advising the chassan (and kallah) what to do.
 
This gets into "da'as Torah" territory, which some object to because it  is 
somewhat amorphous and depends on how much you trust the particular da'as  
Torah you're consulting.  Some people want clear psak with written sources,  and 
will not be satisfied with anything else.


--Toby  Katz
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