[Avodah] Chessed shebigvura

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RRW
: The simple answer is EG not giving money as tzedakkah to an
: Alcoholic Panhandler

Micha
> The point of the question is not the simple answer, but to spend the day
> looking for situations where this truth holds, where I did or did not
> live up to the idea.

I understand 
I was illustrating a case that would make it better understandable

The common denominator is to use g'vura so as to prevent chessed from
committing a form of co-dependent enabling

EG a parent doing the kid's homework.

It's all the same call it "tough love" or whatever it's about doing
chessed by withholding

Chessed shebigvura implies that when meting our din one applies it with
chessed/rachamim

EG how the Talmud aministers lashes by limiting it via v'niqlah achicha
b'einaecha etc. Thus we mete out punishment [g'vurah] w/o fury. That
is Chessed within g'vura. Unlike say the Egyptians who meted out tasks
davka to make then onerous [b'pharech]

G'vura within Chessed means we are meting out kindness albeit it is
manifest by witholding something that might enable or cripple the
recipient - as illustrated.

KT
RRW
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