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<p><strong><strong>Q. When attending a wedding or <em>Sheva Berachos</em> there is a
<em>mitzvah</em> to bring joy to the <em>chosson</em> and <em>kallah</em>. Practically speaking, what does this mean?</strong></strong></p>
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<p>A. Rav Belsky<em> zt”l</em> (Shulchan Halevi 27:26) writes that the Gemara (Kesubos 17a) records how different Tannaim and Amoraim would dance in front of the
<em>chosson</em> and <em>kallah</em> to bring them joy. Dancing in front of the <em>
chosson</em> or <em>kallah</em> is certainly one way to make them happy. However, not everyone is blessed with the ability to dance. Furthermore, not everyone can dance in the center with the
<em>chosson</em>. Instead Rav Belsky explains that the main obligation to bring joy to the
<em>chosson</em> and <em>kallah</em> is by smiling and demonstrating by your countenance and actions that you believe the
<em>chosson</em> and <em>kallah</em> made an excellent decision. You should go over to the
<em>chosson</em> and <em>kallah</em> and bless them, compliment them on their appearance, and commend them on making such a wise decision to marry their spouse.</p>
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Question: Given that many Orthodox weddings today have very high mechitzahs, and the men and women are, of course, on separate sides of this partition, "How is a man supposed to speak to the Kallah, and how is a woman supposed to speak to the Chasson?" While
it is not so uncommon for a man to go over to the women's side to ask his wife when she wants to go home, women coming over to the men's side is often frowned upon!</div>
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