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<p style="margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0">From today's OU Kosher Halacha Yomis</p>
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<p><strong><strong>Q. My brother, who is the eldest child in our family, says I must show him honor and may not contradict him. Is this correct?</strong></strong></p>
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<p>A. The Torah (Shemos 20:12) writes, “Honor your father and your mother.” The Gemara derives from the word “and” an obligation to honor one’s eldest brother. Showing honor to one’s eldest brother is a form of honoring parents. However, poskim point out that
there are many differences between how we must honor our parents and how we must honor the eldest brother.</p>
<p>The Beis Meir (YD 240:23) writes that the <em>mitzvah</em> to honor the eldest brother includes only acts of honor (<em>kavod</em>), such as serving them food, but does not include acts of “<em>mora</em>” (reverence) such as not sitting in their seat or
contradicting them. The Minchas Chinuch (Mitzvah 33) writes that it is logical to assume that the
<em>mitzvah</em> to honor a parent and a brother are not identical and have different guidelines. For example, a parent may not be called by their name, but a brother may be called by his name. The Minchas Yechiel (3:107) explains that it would be a dishonor
to one’s parents if one were to extend the same level of honor to one’s brother as one does for a parent.</p>
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<p style="margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0">There is no mention of honoring one's eldest sister. Is this also a requirement?</p>
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