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</o:shapelayout></xml><![endif]--></head><body lang=EN-US link="#0563C1" vlink="#954F72"><div class=WordSection1><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:10.5pt;font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;color:#444444'>R’ JR: <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:10.5pt;font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;color:#444444'>When one is physically distant from a friend who is sitting shiva, as a general rule, is it better to (pick one) call, text, or email during the shiva period? Or, is it better to wait until you actually see the person again?</span><span style='font-size:10.5pt;font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif'><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal>----------------- <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal>See Igros Moshe OC IV:40.11, where he talks about nichum aveilim via the phone. It seems clear to me that he’s saying that someone who is unable to visit in person still has a mitzvah of nichum; if so, then it makes sense to say that whatever of the modalities you suggest would create the most nechamah (and it may be different from person to person) should be the one used. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal>KT,<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal>MYG<o:p></o:p></p></div></body></html>