<html><head><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=us-ascii"></head><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; line-break: after-white-space;" class=""><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">With an extremely unusual exception, all professionals will tell you</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">that the first time your husband assaults you must be the last time.</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">Furthermore the law is clear and unequivocal: Any incidence of </span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">a domestic crime must be dealt with by arresting the guilty party,</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">be it husband or wife. I can tell you that any call we get involving a </span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">domestic always results in an arrest.</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class=""><i class=""><b class="">Dina D'Malchusa Dina</b> </i></span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">This is the law and we are mandated to follow it.</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">I have no sympathy for a husband who assaults his wife or a wife who</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">assaults her husband. If you assault your spouse, you do not deserve</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">your spouse.</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">Mechila or no mechila, the consequences are serious and the law must</span></div><div class=""><span style="font-size: 22px;" class="">be followed. </span></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class=""><br class=""></div><div class="">Quoted from a rabbinic source:</div>"A woman called. Some of her ribs were broken. She wanted to know if she was supposed to be mochel / forgive her husband. I told her definitely not. She persisted - isn't it a special mitzvah, close to Yom Kippur, a segulah that Hashem should forgive us for all our wrongdoing? It told her that it would be no mitzvah at all."<br class=""><br class="">I'm guessing there's more to the story and that the rabbinic advisor felt that her not being mochel would have an impact on her husband's actions. If not I would have guessed she would have been told to leave him? FWIW IIRC the only exception to the forgiveness rule is motzi shem ra (spreading negatively about the individual).<br class=""><br class="">Your thoughts?</body></html>