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</o:shapelayout></xml><![endif]--></head><body lang=EN-US link=blue vlink=purple><div class=WordSection1><p class=MsoPlainText>“But (as he says at 69:30 or so) that doesn't mean that even if the<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoPlainText>rebbe muvhaq knows the kallah he can say yes or no. It's a discussion,<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoPlainText>a consultation, an airing of the issues so that the halachic implications<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoPlainText>do not get ignored or misconstrued.”<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoPlainText>Assuming there is no halachic problem with the proposed bride and groom getting married (e.g., gerusha to a Kohen, etc.), what are the halachic implications of getting married? I find it interesting that in the Q&A RHS said this about shiduchim: “People ask me eitzas about shiduchim, I can't tell him yes or no. I just bring out points.” I note he used the word “eitzas,” not “for a pesak.” And he said later in the Q&A: “It would be a smart idea if they'd stop giving psakim, and they should give eitzos. . . . He should give a recommendation. He should say: Keep this in mind, keep this in mind.” <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoPlainText>So, ISTM that the upshot of this is that he was saying that people should speak to a wise person before they make important life decisions and that the wise person should be their rabbi who should make recommendations and not pasken. FWIW, I agree with the first part, but not because I’m MO or, indeed, not even because I’m Jewish. It’s simply a smart thing to do. As to the second, sometimes yes and sometimes no or, possibly, there’s someone else wiser about such matters. That’s who I’d ask and that’s who I’d tell my kids to ask.<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal>Joseph <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div></body></html>