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<font size=3><b>Question:<br>
</b>It is permissible to say Birkat Hamazon at an individual table during
a wedding and before Sheva Brachot? Is it permissible to make a mezuman
or better to Bench alone?<br><br>
<b>Answer:<br>
</b>It is permissible to leave a wedding before Birkat Hamazon( Grace)
where Sheva Brachot will be recited later. One explanation given is that
the obligation to participate in Sheva Brachot is incumbent - not on all
those who participated in the meal - but only on those who participated
in the Birkat Hamazon at the end of the meal (Shu"t Tzitz Eliezer;
Shu"t Shevet Halevi). Another explanation is that since it is common
practice not to stay until the end of the wedding, guests do not
automatically commit themselves just by eating to staying until Sheva
Brachot (Hanisuim K'hilchatam, ch.14 n.84).<br><br>
If you are leaving early - your best alternative is to find others who
are leaving early as well so that you can say a Zimun. <br><br>
And from
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Tzitz Eliezer: Leaving A Wedding Or Sheva Brachos Before Birchas
HaMazon<br><br>
After Birchas HaMazon at a Chasuna or Sheva Brachos, the Sheva Brachos
are said. Is a person who participated in the Seudah allowed to Bentch
and leave before the Sheva Brachos (provided that he is in accordance
with the halachos of Zimun) or is everyone obligated to stay until the
end? <br><br>
The Tzitz Eliezer (11:84) says that many people are not makpid to stay
and leave early. He says that this custom can be justified and that in
fact the Minchas Yitzchok says that if one needs to leave for an
important reason before Birchas HaMazon he may do so. <br><br>
The Tzitz Eliezer relies on Rav Shlomo Kluger who says that the
obligation of Sheva Brachos is not triggered by the Seudah but rather by
Birchas HaMazon itself, meaning that until they have said Birchas HaMazon
there is no obligation of Sheva Brachos. Therefore if one can halachicly
leave before Birchas HaMazon he was never obligated in Sheva Brachos in
the first place. <br><br>
This chiddush has a number of halachic ramifications. According to this
if a Sheva Brachos is made on the last day, even if the whole seudah is
eaten before nighttime but Birchas HaMazon was not yet said until after
nighttime, Sheva Brachos cannot be said anymore, since it depends purely
on Birchas HaMazon which is not within the seven days. <br><br>
Another point is that if the Panim Chadashos leaves before Birchas
HaMazon, Sheva Brachos cannot be said. Moreover he may even leave early
(provided he does not violate the Chiyuv of Zimun) and has not
"ruined" the Sheva Brachos because before Birchas HaMazon it is
not even a consideration. <br>
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