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On 6/4/2013 9:18 AM, Rich, Joel wrote:
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<p class="MsoNormal">From today's Hakhel email bulletin.<br>
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The golden rule in Kibud Av V?Eim is: The way in which one would want
his children to treat him, and what he would like them to do for
him--is the way he should treat his parents and the acts he should
undertake on their behalf!<o:p></o:p></p>
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that’s not what I was taught. IIUC One should treat their parents the
way their parents want to be treated (e.g. if I were very sociable and
would want to be in a activity focused communal facility, I shouldn’t
project that on a parent who prefers to stay home and read)<br>
KT<br>
Joel Rich</span></p>
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Amen v'amen. It doesn't matter whether it's parent and child or
otherwise. If Reuven treats Shimon the way Reuven would want to be
treated as opposed to the way Shimon wants to be treated, Reuven is
wrong. It's the treyfer sefer that says "Do unto others as you would
want them to do unto you." Hillel says to avoid doing to others what
you'd dislike, but that's a far cry from doing *to* them what you like.<br>
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Lisa<br>
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