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<font size=3>At 05:23 AM 11/9/2012, R. Micha wrote:<br><br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite="">The majority of the time is
spent on a mussar shmuess for mechankhim.<br>
Reducing it to a dry paragraph:<br><br>
Every child has questions. Therefore, don't treat the child who asks
a<br>
fundamental question as though they had one foot out the door and a
bad<br>
influence. (Horror stories deleted.) And we need to have at least
one<br>
mechanekh per school who is willing to sit down and talk these
things<br>
out. Until prevailing attitudes change, this may have to be done
with<br>
promises of confidentiality about questions asked.<br><br>
What I got out of the talk that was new to me:<br><br>
RDS presented the following taxonomy of how youth relate to
fundamental<br>
questions:<br><br>
1- We have the success stories, the believers who have a firm
foundation.<br><br>
2- The one who has no questions because it's not their nature to be
bothered<br>
by these things.<br><br>
3- The one who has questions, but are invested enough in the system
to<br>
be a maamin despite them.<br><br>
4- The one who has questions, but lives the lifestyle mitzvos
anashim<br>
meilumada.<br><br>
5- Those on their way out.<br><br>
RDS closes by mentioning that all our youth, even those from the
most<br>
self-contained of our communities, are exposed to more sexuality
than<br>
generations past. We need to teach this from a Jewish viewpoint as
well.</blockquote><br>
There is another videos of a talk on this topic that was given at the
2011 Torah U Mesorah Convention given by Rabbi Pinchos Jung. It is
at
<a href="http://chinuch.org/av_library.php?id=420 " eudora="autourl">
http://chinuch.org/av_library.php?id=420 </a> One has to log on to the
web site
<a href="http://chinuch.org/" eudora="autourl">http://chinuch.org/</a>
to see this video. One can sign up for the site at no
cost. There is a lot of interesting material on this site.
<br><br>
Rabbi Jung mentions at the beginning about changes that need to be made
in the yeshiva curriculum for boys. <br><br>
YL <br>
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