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face=Arial>From: "kennethgmiller@juno.com"
<kennethgmiller@juno.com><BR><BR>>> Yes, but how do you understand
the lack of aveilus for an infant who dies before 30 days? I cannot understand
it in any way other than to say that the family's pain was not as great in such
cases, similar to how even nowadays a stillborn causes less pain than when a
living baby passes on.<<<BR><BR>Akiva Miller</FONT></FONT></DIV>
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<DIV>A baby might be born in the sixth or seventh month and live for a few
minutes, the exact boundary between "miscarriage," "stillbirth," "premature
birth," and "neonatal death" is not so absolute. (One of the reasons that
the US /seems/ to have worse infant mortality statistics than some other
countries is that we routinely save very premature infants who are counted as
"miscarriages" in other countries -- but if that preemie dies despite the best
medical efforts, in the US it now becomes "infant mortality" rather than
"miscarriage.") Given that these mishaps occurred frequently in the old
days and even nowadays, it would be a hardship to require parents and siblings
to sit shiva and follow all the laws of aveilus for each such loss. Of
course there is nothing to forbid the bereaved mother and father from grieving
in their own way and at their own pace.</DIV>
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