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<DIV>However, I will mention one area where there may possibly be a
matrilineal minhag, and that is Shabbos candle lighting. When I got
married, I was under the impression that if your mother lights a candle for
each child, then you, when you have your own home, should follow your mother's
custom in this. However, my husband said that you follow your husband's
custom. His custom (which technically then is my mother-in-law's A'H
custom) is to light only two candles. So that is what I do. If I
felt strongly about it, he probably wouldn't mind my adding extra candles for
the children, but in the event I have not done so. I wonder what the
chevra here say about candle-lighting -- mother's or mother-in-law's
minhag? </DIV>
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<DIV><BR><STRONG>--Toby Katz<BR>================</STRONG><SPAN
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<DIV><SPAN class=838095816-06072011><STRONG>First I think one might want to
try to identify the source of the "minhag"</STRONG> <STRONG> to add one
candle per child. I suspect it's an example of what the gemara refers to
as "nahagu" - that people just started doing it that way and it caught
on.</STRONG></SPAN></DIV>
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FAMILY="SANSSERIF"><SPAN class=838095816-06072011> KT<BR>Joel Rich
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