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<DIV><FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" color=#000000 size=2 face=Arial>From: menucha <A href="mailto:menu@inter.net.il">menu@inter.net.il</A><BR></FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" color=#000000 size=2 face=Arial>Thank you everyone for your answers. The couple are not willing
to go <BR>along with a solution of the public/private or written/read ktuba, or
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<DIV><FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" color=#000000 size=2 face=Arial>If the chassan and kallah are trying to force some kind of
public acknowledgement that the marriage of a non-Jew and a Jew is OK bedi'eved,
their wishes absolutely should not be accommodated even if it causes them and
their family pain. It causes all Torah Jews pain, but we can only do what
we can do. The Reform and Conservative are constantly leaving us with
major messes that we are expected to mop up -- how did the kallah's mother come
to marry a non-Jew, anyway? -- but we can only bend so
far. We have a responsibility to help our fellow Jews to the
extent that is possible, but we also have a responsibility to uphold our
eternal Torah. Usually those goals are congruent; here they are at
odds. Many solutions have been suggested with the goal of sparing
these people's feelings, but it seems they want more -- they want the
halacha changed for their sake. If they are intent on changing the Torah,
well, that's what C rabbis are for.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT lang=0 color=#0000ff size=2 face=Arial FAMILY="SANSSERIF" PTSIZE="10"><BR><B>--Toby Katz<BR>================</FONT><FONT lang=0 color=#000000 size=2 face=Arial FAMILY="SANSSERIF" PTSIZE="10"><BR></B><BR><BR><BR><BR>_____________________</FONT></DIV></FONT></BODY></HTML>