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SA Even Haezer Siman 2 Seif 1 Ramah (the whole thing) and Chelkat michokek to answer the stirah.</div><div><br></div><div><a href="http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14398&st=&pgnum=12" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 65, 112); ">http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14398&st=&pgnum=12</a></div>
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RSZN: but there undoubtedly is more economic blackmail than before [ no $ , no shidduch]<br><br>Depends how you define "before" - dowries have been around for millennia.<br></blockquote><br></div>And poskim and baalei mussar seem to have had no problem at all with<br>
them. One finds no condemnation of the bochur who places a high<br>price on himself before agreeing to a shiduch. What one does find,<br>interestingly, is condemnation of the bochur who, having agreed to a<br>shiduch, breaks it off because the father-in-law is no longer able to<br>
meet the commitment he made in good faith.</span>
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