<html><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; font-size: 12px; "><table width="100%" class="co_TanachTable" border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; position: static; z-index: auto; "><tbody><tr class="Co_Rashi"></tr><tr class="Co_Verse"><td valign="top" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; width: 383px; padding-top: 5px; border-top-width: 1px; border-top-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); border-top-style: initial; padding-bottom: 5px; "><span class="co_VerseText"><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; ">And his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, so they hated him, and they could not speak with him peacefully.</span></font></span></td><td class="Co_Spacer" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; width: 10px; padding-top: 5px; border-top-width: 1px; border-top-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); border-top-style: initial; padding-bottom: 5px; "><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; "> </span></font></td><td valign="top" class="hebrew" style="font-family: 'arial hebrew', arial; width: 256px; padding-top: 5px; border-top-width: 1px; border-top-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); border-top-style: initial; text-align: right; direction: rtl; padding-bottom: 5px; "><span class="co_VerseNum" style="font-weight: bold; "><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; ">ד. </span></font></span><span class="co_VerseText"><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; ">וַיִּרְאוּ אֶחָיו כִּי אֹתוֹ אָהַב אֲבִיהֶם מִכָּל אֶחָיו וַיִּשְׂנְאוּ אֹתוֹ וְלֹא יָכְלוּ דַּבְּרוֹ לְשָׁלֹם:</span></font></span></td></tr><tr class="Co_Rashi"><td valign="top" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; width: 358px; height: 96px; border-left-width: 25px; border-left-style: solid; border-left-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); "><span class="Co_RashiContainer" style="background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); display: block; height: 80px; padding-top: 8px; padding-right: 8px; padding-bottom: 8px; padding-left: 8px; "><span class="co_RashiTitle" style="font-weight: bold; "><font class="Apple-style-span" size="4"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 16px; ">and they could not speak with him peacefully: </span></font></span><span class="co_RashiText"><font class="Apple-style-span" size="4"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 16px; ">From what is stated to their discredit, we may learn something to their credit, that they did not say one thing with their mouth and think differently in their heart. [From Gen. Rabbah 84:9]</span></font></span></span></td><td class="Co_Spacer" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; width: 10px; height: 16px; border-left-width: 0px; border-left-style: none; background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-top-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; "><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; "> </span></font></td><td valign="top" class="hebrew" style="font-family: 'arial hebrew', arial; width: 231px; height: 61px; border-left-width: 0px; border-left-style: none; border-left-color: initial; background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); text-align: right; direction: rtl; border-right-width: 25px; border-right-style: solid; border-right-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "><span class="Co_RashiContainer" style="background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); display: block; height: 45px; padding-top: 8px; padding-right: 8px; padding-bottom: 8px; padding-left: 8px; "><span class="co_RashiTitle" style="font-weight: bold; "><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; ">ולא יכלו דברו לשלום: </span></font></span><span class="co_RashiText"><font class="Apple-style-span" size="5"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 18px; ">מתוך גנותם למדנו שבחם, שלא דברו אחת בפה ואחת בלב:</span></font></span></span></td></tr><tr class="Co_Rashi" style="font-size: 12px; "><td valign="top" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; width: 358px; height: 48px; border-left-width: 25px; border-left-style: solid; border-left-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); "><span class="Co_RashiContainer" style="background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); display: block; height: 32px; padding-top: 8px; padding-right: 8px; padding-bottom: 8px; padding-left: 8px; "></span></td><td class="Co_Spacer" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif, 'MS sans serif'; width: 10px; height: 16px; border-left-width: 0px; border-left-style: none; background-color: rgb(236, 233, 216); border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-top-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; "> </td></tr></tbody></table></span></div><div><div><br></div></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; "><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">I have always maintained that 95% of all parents have a favorite amongst their children. Many cannot admit it to others (or even to themselves), but it is almost human nature to favor one child over another. We know this as teachers that we have our likes and dislikes. However, the wise teacher does his or her best not to show it. I know personally that when I teach a class, I go overboard to be even a bit harder on those whom I favor more. And it doesn't necessarily have to do with one's intelligence but rather it is a certain chemistry that often times may be irrational, objectively speaking.</font></span><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial, Times, serif"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px; "><br></span></font></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Times, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 20px; ">The Rashi above regarding "...something to their credit, that they did not say one thing with their mouth and think differently in their heart" is quite interesting.</span> We are taught right from the story of Sarah and Avraham that a white law is not only permissible -- but preferable in sparing one's feelings. So for Rashi to compliment the brothers for their brutal honesty is surprising. </div><div><br></div><div>There's a well known Yiddish proverb: "<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px; ">Vos oyf der lung iz oyf der tsung</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; ">" </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px; "><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial" size="4"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 16px; ">which literally means "<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold; ">What’s on the lung is on the tongue.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; ">" <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: medium; line-height: normal; ">This is one of the problems of draconian personalities who brag how they "tell it like it is." Basically, this is not a compliment. It basically means that someone who is impulsive and has little or no control of oneself says whatever is on his mind without thinking or caring of the repercussions of his words and the negative effects it may have on others. In another context, what Rashi is saying would be meritorious. In other words, people should not be duplicitous and insincere. But IMHO, to use the scenario of the brothers "hating" Joseph and speaking ill of him, to their credit, as an example of not being hypocritical seems to be a stretch and an unsatisfactory object lesson.</span></span></span></font></span></div></body></html>