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<DIV><FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" face=Arial color=#000000
size=2>From: Claudia Gaspar <A
href="mailto:gaspar51@gmail.com">gaspar51@gmail.com</A><BR><BR>>>A friend
of mine who is x-tian lost his 20-year old son in a terrible<BR>motorcycle
accident.<BR><BR>He invited me to attend a mass and I know it's very important
to him I can<BR>be present in a so painful time.<BR><BR>I don't know what to to.
Is it an 'ethics' I can observe under such<BR>conditions? <<<BR><BR>Shabat
Shalom<BR><BR>Claudia Gaspar</FONT></FONT></DIV>
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<DIV>You can't go to church but you can send him a letter of condolence and ask
if it would be OK for you to visit his home in a few days. At his home you
would more or less conduct yourself as you would at a shiva -- talk about his
son and ask him to share memories with you. The pain of your not being at
the mass is so tiny compared to the pain of losing his son that he will not
remember or care about it in the long run. It's like a mosquito bite
compared to a massive stroke.</DIV>
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PTSIZE="10"><BR><B>--Toby Katz<BR>==========<BR><BR></FONT><FONT lang=0
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