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size=2>From: Micha Berger <micha@aishdas.org><BR>>>In short, nearly
all of us come from communities where divorce was a<BR>possibility. Which means
that it was possible to have a minhag about<BR>whether children attend their
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size=2>>>>>><BR>Remarriage was tragically common in Europe,
divorce was rare. People died, parents were widowed, children were
orphaned. Children did not attend their parents'
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size=2>My grandfather was married three times (my father's father). His
first wife died in childbirth, his second wife was killed in a pogrom (along
with an infant son). My grandmother was his third wife, and the first
child they had together died of hunger during WW I. This series of
tragedies was all too common in Europe. Quite common enough for an
accepted practice to develop regarding children at a parent's wedding.
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size=2><FONT color=#0000ff><BR></FONT><B><FONT color=#0000ff>--Toby
Katz<BR>==========<BR><BR></FONT><FONT lang=0 face=Arial color=#000000 size=2
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