<table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" border="0" ><tr><td valign="top" style="font: inherit;"><DIV>--- On <B>Sun, 3/29/09, Elazar M. Teitz <I><remt@juno.com></I></B> wrote:<BR></DIV>
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<DIV><I'm surprised that she was allowed to follow the coffin at all.<BR>Many communities are careful not to allow a man's offspring to follow him,<BR>and many make an explicit announcement to that effect.> </DIV>
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<DIV> The reason given for the minhag has no applicability at all to a woman's funeral.</DIV>
<DIV> Lately, the chevros have been allowing descendants to go to the gravesite before the funeral procession, but to stand four amos away until the body has been lowered into the grave. This was the procedure at the levaya of my father z"l.</DIV></DIV></BLOCKQUOTE>
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<DIV>This is exactly what happened with me. I went ahead of the funeral procession and was made to stand back more than 4 amos from the Kever during the Kevurah of my father. But I actually particiated in the Kevurah of my mother a few months ago.</DIV>
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<DIV>That children are not allowed at their father's Kevurah is a Minhag Yerushamyim that I believe dates back to the time of Yehoshua. I believe it is Kabalistic - and has to do with the inyanim of Hotzoas Zera and the potential Neshomas that thereby didn't make it to this world - coming back as Kateigors against the niftar to living children who did.</DIV>
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