<table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" border="0" ><tr><td valign="top" style="font: inherit;"><DIV>--- On <B>Tue, 2/24/09, Rich, Joel <I><JRich@sibson.com></I></B> wrote:</DIV>
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<DIV><SPAN class=076021416-24022009><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff>I don't know why this rises to the level of "minhag" any more than a doctor wearing a white lab coat - so if you take the Gaon's approach by chukat hagoyim across the board, maybe you shouldn't wear a ring (or a tie but that's for a different post). If you take the more standard approach, it's certainly not a chiyuv for a male in the workforce to wear a ring but it certainly sounds like an eitzah tova unless there's a reason not to (e.g. to be different than - who?</FONT> <FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff> - especially assuming your covering your head)<BR><BR></FONT></SPAN></DIV></DIV></DIV></DIV></DIV></BLOCKQUOTE></DIV><PRE> </PRE></BLOCKQUOTE>
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<DIV>I haven't been following this thread that closely and apologize if something like this has alreay been mentioned. But there is another reason that comes to mind that argues against wearing a wedding band.</DIV>
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<DIV>The wedding band is not just a symbol of marriage. It is the Tabba'as of kinyan - the 'Kesef' of Kidushin that a woman accepts and is thereby consecrated. By a man wearing a wedding band he might give the impression that he is wearing some sort fo male counterpart to this - as though he received a Taba'as from her as a Kinyan. </DIV>
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<DIV>And that - as we know - can invalidate the Kiddushin if it were done under the Chupa in immediate sequence to her acceptance of his ring (because it looks like she is giving him back the ring she just got from him - unless it is clearly spelled out that that is not what she is doing.)</DIV>
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