<html><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 128); font-family: Arial; "><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000"><br><i>V'LO YACHLU DABRO L'SHALOM</i> (37:4) - "And they they could not speak to him peaceably." </font></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 128); font-family: Arial; "><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">Due to the tremendous jealousy and hostility, the brothers could not bring themselves to speak peacefully to Joseph. </font></span><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">Interestingly, Rashi actually commends them for not being two faced. He writes: "From their blame we learn their praise.</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">For they did not speak one way with their mouth and another way with their heart."</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial"><br></font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">Though Rashi is correct, I think an even higher level, would be to adhere to the old adage: "If you can't say something</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">nice, then don't say anything at all." That's a level we all strive for, but having someone tell us that they will rule over us</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">makes it pretty difficult. That would take a true tzaddik, which few of us are. </font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial"><br></font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial">rw</font></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial"><br></font></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 128); font-family: Arial; "><br></span></div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial"><br></font></div></div></body></html>