<br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Sun, Nov 30, 2008 at 1:06 PM, Yitzchok Levine <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:Larry.Levine@stevens.edu">Larry.Levine@stevens.edu</a>></span> wrote:<br><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="border-left: 1px solid rgb(204, 204, 204); margin: 0pt 0pt 0pt 0.8ex; padding-left: 1ex;">
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In his essay on
<a href="http://www.stevens.edu/golem/llevine/rsrh/jewish_woman.pdf" target="_blank">The
Jewish Woman</a> RSRH discusses how Rivka was chosen to be Yitzchok's
wife. On pages 107 - 108 he writes regarding how this Shidduch was
decided upon and then comments on how other shidduchim should be decided
upon. YL<br><br>
<font size="3">It </font><font face="Arial, Helvetica" size="3">is
significant that the one person whose wishes should have been regarded as
decisive in this arrangement has nothing to say in the matter. Isaac,
whose wishes should have mattered the most, remains silent throughout.
While Rebecca is asked for her approval before any arrangements are made
in her behalf, Isaac permits his father and his father's faithful servant
complete freedom to act for him in a matter which, more than anything
else, will be decisive for his personal happiness. <br></font></div></blockquote></div><br>I actually wondered recently how Eliezer did not violate the rule that a man must see his intended before kiddushin can be made. I am of course assuming, and could be very wrong, that when Eliezer gave her the rings, he was acting as a shliach for Yitzchak to affect kiddushin on his behalf.<br>