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<font size=3>At 06:29 PM 11/25/2008, you wrote:<br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite="">Prof. Levine wrote:<br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite="">At 04:43 PM 11/25/2008, R. D.
Eidensohn wrote:<br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite="">For many couples if there
is no attraction initially - the marriage will not<br>
succeed.</blockquote>Attraction and love are two very different things.
Indeed, I am sure that we all know of instances in which two people were
very attracted to each other, but there was no love and no love
developed.<br><br>
RSRH was talking about love developing during the course of the marriage.
He said nothing about
attraction.</font></blockquote></blockquote><font size=3><br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite="">You missed my point. I wasn't
asserting that love and attraction are the same thing. The example of
Avraham not noticing his wife's beauty is another issue that we could
make a didactic statement that beauty is not important and shouldn't be
important. This however is contradicted by many other Torah sources.
Similarly you can't take a posuk that says that Yitzchok came to love
Rivka after they were married as a paradigm of the Torah view of the
relationship between love and marriage - since it is contradicted by
other sources such as Yaakov and Rochel. One data point can not be
assumed to be representative of the population it was drawn from -
especially when other data points contradict it.<br><br>
Daniel Eidensohn</font></blockquote><br>
<font size=3>So you have a quarrel with RSRH, not with me. He does
precisely what you say one cannot (in truth, should not) do! <br><br>
When I saw what he wrote about Yitzchok and Rivka the song Love and
Marriage jumped into my head. <br><br>
BTW, RSRH says nothing about the Pasuk that says that Yaakov loved
Rachel. <br><br>
There is a long essay in the Collected Writings VIII about the Jewish
Woman. Tomorrow I hope to be able to scan part of it and post it.
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YL<br><br>
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