<br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Wed, Nov 12, 2008 at 4:42 PM, Zev Sero <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:zev@sero.name">zev@sero.name</a>></span> wrote:<br><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="border-left: 1px solid rgb(204, 204, 204); margin: 0pt 0pt 0pt 0.8ex; padding-left: 1ex;">
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On the contrary, if you know you are distressing the person then I<br>
don't believe the KSA would have you withhold the information either.<br>
The whole point is *not* to distress the person, and is a *fulfilment*<br>
of veahavta; if in a particular case veahavta requires the opposite of<br>
what it usually does, then so be it.<br>
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The same applies to kibbud av va'em -- sometimes it *requires* behaving<br>
to parents in a way that it would usually forbid, e.g. shouting at a<br>
parent to make them take their medicine or get up and take necessary<br>
exercise. The rule that one must normally not behave so is a general<br>
rule, geared to the general situation.<br><font color="#888888">
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-- <br>
Zev Sero Something has gone seriously awry with this Court's<br>
<a href="mailto:zev@sero.name" target="_blank">zev@sero.name</a> interpretation of the Constitution.<br>
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</div></div></blockquote></div><br><br clear="all">II have run across some Mussar Sefarim that advise against being a "bad news" monger, which tangentially relates with being a Lashon Horo. Zev is likely correct in his reasoning above that spreading bad news can inflict pain - just as LH does. <br>
<br>Now telling people about a levaya might be an exception to the above, because in that case one is prompting beople to do a mitzva<br><br><br><br>RabbiRichWolpoe@Gmail.com<br>see: <a href="http://nishmablog.blogspot.com/">http://nishmablog.blogspot.com/</a><br>