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<DIV>> In the latest shiur...someone repeated the halacha against<BR>>
informing women of the death of a close relative<BR> and <BR><BR>See KSA
206 - 9, 10, 11 - <A href="http://www.kitzur.net/main.php?nk=1&siman=206"
target=_blank>http://www.kitzur.net/main.php?nk=1&siman=206</A><BR><BR><BR>I
think the context of these halachos needs to be explored. The halacha
that prefers the concealing of sad tidings is not applicable to family that
lives in the same neighboorhood or shtetl, since they would find out in any
case.<BR><BR>Up till recently, the state of travel and postal services was
such that family that lived in another town or country wasn't heard from for
months or even years at a time. Given that reality, it might make sense
not to trouble someone and shut down his life for a week for someone he
wouldn't see or hear from for several months. The story about the Alter
concealing the news of R Yehuda Leib Ruderman's death from his son is a case
in point. Given the distance, there was nothing the young YY Ruderman
could have or would have done for his family in any case. There is a
similar story about the Netziv accidentally discovering that a brother had
passed away.<BR><BR><SPAN class=364404216-10112008><FONT face=Arial
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<DIV><SPAN class=364404216-10112008><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff>Thought
experiment - someone knows that a close relative is ill and unlikely to make
it past the next month. He goes to a remote island and instructs that no
one contact him. He returns 3 months later and gets the shmua
rechoka that his relative had died 2 months prior. </FONT> <FONT
face=Arial color=#0000ff>He mourns as a shmua rechoka. Has he done
anything wrong? anything not preferred?<BR>KT<BR>Joel
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