<br><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">In Avodah Digest V23#102,
RET responded to me:</font>
<br><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">[old RET] >>> </font><tt><font size=2>Again
the major question for me is what do sefardim in practice when they<br>
are invited out? <</font></tt><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana"><<</font><tt><font size=2><br>
</font></tt><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">[old me] >>
</font><tt><font size=2>Why assume that a guest in someone's home isn't
permitted to follow the<br>
practices of his host, assuming those practices are Halachically<br>
legitimate? More than that he is permitted, I would think he is *mandated*<br>
to follow them unless his host explicitly allows or makes allowance for
him<br>
to "do his own thing."</font></tt><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">
<<</font>
<br><tt><font size=2>> In his teshuva ROY states explicitly that as
a guest one either requests the<br>
host to provide non-sweetened challot or else brings ones own.</font></tt><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">..</font><tt><font size=2>
<</font></tt>
<br><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">(and, as part of our subsequent
private dialogue, RET sent me the relevant e-mails from </font><font size=3><b>Halacha
Yomit</b> <</font><a href=mailto:info@halachayomit.co.il><font size=3 color=blue><u>info@halachayomit.co.il</u></font></a><font size=3>></font><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">
which quoted ROY on this topic).</font>
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<br><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">I understand the need for,
ceteris paribus, maintaining one's Halachah even while in the domain of
someone whose Halachah is legitimately different. However, as I implied
(perhaps not clearly enough) before, the situation of being a guest in
that someone/host's home involves the host's sensibilities. As RET
noted privately, ROY's p'saq (which, after writing "v'lachein min
harauy sheyodia' l'ma'archo meirosh shel'minhag haS'faradim din challah
m'suqah k'din ugah," adds "o shey'da-eig l'havi imo challos r'gilos
v'yochal meihen v'yatza y'dei chovaso" [any errors in transliteration
are mine]) might change if there is a possibility that the host would be
insulted by the actions of a guest following his own Halachah if that guest
wasn't able to previously speak with his host about the issue. Well,
a guest often doesn't know whether or not his host would be insulted! The
resultant Q is whether the guest should take a chance on insulting rather
than definitely follow the Halachah of his host, and, again, I would think
he should not take such a chance and only follow his own Halachah if he
knows the host will be OK with his actions. Perhaps the Chevra can
pitch in with any SHuT, either from ROY or from another poseiq who holds
similar views re "sweet challot," that deal with the bein adam
lachaveiro aspect of being an orach -- in the meantime, I think ROY's words
imply that we're dealing with someone who received the invitation far enough
in advance that he could bring his own "challos r'gilos" (and,
accordingly, should make every effort to clear such an action with his
host ahead of the appointed time) and not with a spur-of-the-moment invitee
(which, IMHO, better fits the definition of hachnasas orchim, but that's
a subject for another time...).</font>
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<br><font size=3 color=#000080 face="Verdana">Shabbas Shalom and all the
best from</font>
<br><font size=4 color=blue face="Monotype Corsiva">Michael Poppers</font><font size=4 color=blue face="Verdana">
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